"Our brother Bewok, with his trimmed beard, said, 'Hate is the opposition of Love.'" the Moon opened her voice after saying Basmalah and Salaam. "'As for Love, are there any definitions about Love?' says he. 'So far in life, all of us have a sense of what love is, we understand what it means. Ibn al-Qayyim is of the opinion that there are things—such as Love—that do not need to be defined. We all know what it is; we have experienced it. Attempting to define it, only obscures it. After he goes through many of its definitions, Ibn al-Qayyim, rahimahullah, explains that ach, when one attempting to define love, captured one thing, but missed another. Definitions are there to provide clarity. But when something is already clear, there is no need for a definition.
Ibn Hajar, rahimahullah, agreed that a definition is elusive and that it is something felt and not fully articulated. This opinion can be traced all the way back to al-Qushayri, rahimahullah, in his Risalah, where he declared that love, as a self-evident truth—is in no need of a definition. Its best definition is itself: Love is Love. Anything else is incomplete and obscuring.
This is a valuable point about self-evident truths. Allah spoke about love in the Quran without defining it, because we understand what love is. Our beloved Prophet (ﷺ) did the same. We all know what Love is, because we all experience it. When something is so plain and universal, it does not need clarification.
According to Ibn al-Qayyim, the Arabic language has sixty different words for Love, however, not all of them, however, are names for Love. They describe the development of Love, its conditions, consequences, and the different stages of Love. The main word for Love is 'Hubb.' Ibn al-Qayyim, and al-Qushayri, before him, connected the etymology of 'Hubb' to the experience of Love. 'Hubb' comes from, firstly, Purity and clarity. The devotion of the lover to their beloved is compared to the purity of color; Secondly, Agitation. This is so because love causes the agitation or movement of the heart; Third, Firmness in place. Love, when true, settles in the heart and does not leave; Fourth, the kernel of fruit, the innermost. Love reaches the deepest parts of the heart, and the lover gives their innermost to their beloved; Fifth, a big vessel that gets completely filled with no space left. When love enters the heart, it fills it all and leaves no space for anything else; Sixth, a stand made up of four legs that carries and supports a jar. The lover carries the weight of love like four legs carrying heavy objects.
Ibn al-Qayyim added that Hubb is made up of two letters: Ha and Ba. Ha is pronounced from the lowest part of the throat, while Ba comes from the lips, moving as you pronounce the word from one end to the other. And so is love, the beginning and the end: it begins with an admiration and an inclination until the entire being is consumed by it.
Therefore, why people Love? Al-Qadi ‘Iyad, rahimahullah, boiled down the reasons of love to three. First, physical or outer beauty that people behold with their eyes (beautiful vista), ears (beautiful sound), and tongues (delicious food and drink); Second, non-physical (internal) beauty that people behold with their minds (good manners, morality, uprightness); Third, the benefactor and the benefit they bring, for a soul is naturally attracted to anyone who helps it.
Al-Ghazali, rahimahullah, added two more reasons, first, we love ourselves and our continued existence. Anything that supports this existence is loved as well; Second, compatibility between lovers. This, sometimes, is hidden and cannot be explained. Two could love each other, not out of beauty or particular gains, but simply because their souls are connected and compatible.
He went on to affirm that Allah deserves our greatest love based on these five reasons. He has the greatest Outer and Inner Beauty, He is the only true Benefactor, He is the sole cause of our existence, and He is the closest to us.
Then, what about 'Love at first sight'? When considering the multiple causes of Love and how profound it is, Love at first sight seems like a tiny fraction of the reality of Love. Not every claim to love at first glance is genuine. But if the claimant is honest, their love is for external beauty, and there are layers of love that have not been experienced. Physical beauty could be the antecedent to greater love when it is reinforced with inner beauty, or it could be the only cause of attraction. If it is the latter, it will prove to be flimsy. The marketing of “love at first sight” as true love is a disservice to how deep love is.
According to Ibn al-Qayyim, there are four types of Love. Those who got misguided were misguided because they did not distinguish between them. The first is loving Allah. This is insufficient on its own to save from the punishment of Allah and to win His rewar. The second is loving what Allah loves. This is the love that makes one a Muslim and extracts them from disbelief. The most beloved to Allah are the ones who are best in this love and strongest in it. The third is loving people and things for Allah’s sake, which is one of the necessary consequences of loving what He loves. Loving what Allah loves would not be complete until one loves people and things for His sake. The fourth is loving others alongside Allah. This is the polytheistic love. Anyone who loves something alongside Allah, not for Allah or His sake, then they have adopted that thing as a rival besides Allah. This is the love of the polytheists.
There remains a fifth type, that is natural love, which is one’s inclination to what agrees with their nature, like the thirsty loving water, the hungry food, loving sleeping, a wife, and a child. These are not condemned unless they distract from the remembrance of Allah and distance from His love.
Again, according to Ibn al-Qayyim, Common Love is of three kinds. The first is natural and common love, like the hungry loving food, the thirsty water, and so on. This love does not require exaltation.
The second is a love of mercy and kindness, like a parent loving their young child and so on. This too does not require exaltation.
The third is a love of affability and sociability. This is the love between companions in an industry, discipline of knowledge, company, business, travel, and love between brothers. These three types of love are suitable for creation, between each other, and its presence among them is not Shirk in loving Allah.
This is why our beloved (ﷺ) used to love sweets and honey, the most beloved drink to him was the sweet and cold one, the most beloved meat to him was the shoulder, he loved his wives and 'A’ishah, radhiyallahu 'anha, was the most beloved among them to him, and he loved his Companions and the most beloved among them to him was al-Siddiq, radhiyallahu 'anhu.
As for the special love that is only suitable for Allah alone and once one loves another with it, it would be Shirk that Allah does not forgive, it is love that is worship and which requires humility, submission, exaltation, complete obedience, and favoring Him over others. This love cannot be given to other than Allah, and this is the love that the polytheists equated their idols with Allah in it.
'So,' says our brother Bewok, 'what I'm trying to say, that love, is in the deepest part, and the deepest part is the heart, which is only in the Hands of Allah. Nothing can stop someone from falling in love, and I won't give up!'
Just this time, the Owl saw the Moon acted like being pampered. Both her palms, placed on cheeks, and cheerfully, she said, "How romantic is our brother Bewok! What we love and hate, determines the paths we take. Loving Imaan and Piety is essential to follow the Truth and resisting Temptations. Asking for this love, should be one of our frequent prayers.
However, our brother Bewok, it is not Love that is at issue, but the Conflict of Interest, Ethics of of the State, and a myriad of other issues, especially if one asks for more. So, think about it, bro!
Love is complex. Nothing complex exists in a vacuum. It is part of a web of multiple emotions, ideas, and interactions. Hence, love is interwoven with other emotions, including Hate.
We love honesty. Do we hate its opposite? Do we not hate lying, betrayal, and deception? We love justice and abhor tyranny and inequality. Are we neutral about rape, sexual harassment, pedophilia, and mass murder? Why do we hate them?
Is it not because we love their opposite: sexual relations based on consent, respect, and the sanctity of human life? Is it possible to love something and not hate its opposite? Or is loving something part of hating its opposite, and hating something part of loving its opposite?
One may hate certain foods, seasons, illness, and death. Conversely, they love other types of food, other seasons, health, and life. One’s hatred of these things, may motivate simple avoidance—not eating the food we hate—or an attempt at eradication—fighting diseases and illness. Hate can distance us from harm. We hate sickness, so we avoid its causes and triggers. We plan and pursue our dreams, because we hate failure. This type of hate, or whatever we decide to call it, is not inherently negative. Love would not exist without it.
Love and hate are intertwined, and the presence of each, is essential in the constitution of the other. The venomous hate of racism and jingoism is fed by extreme and misguided love of one’s ethnicity, nation, and self: every hate requires a form of love. Had this extreme love not existed, its accompanying hatred would not exist as well. Racial supremacy is based on love, albeit a faulty one. Legitimate love feeds legitimate hate, and illegitimate love feeds illegitimate hate. Allah teaches us in the Quran that not all love is legitimate and appropriate. The love that people give to their rivals to Allah is misguided and blameworthy.
Sometimes, love is blind, wrong, and destructive. To speak of love as a universal good, sacrifices nuance and conveys the erroneous and dangerous impression that as long as what we are feeling is love, it justifies everything. Love is not always good, and hatred, equally, is not always wrong.
We love because we hate and hate because we love. When our love is intense, so is our hate for its opposite. And when our hate is intense, so is our love for its opposite. For example, our passionate love for an individual, makes us hate separating from them. If we dig deeper, we will find that the crux of this love, is our aversion to being alone. If solitude were not distasteful and unbearable, we would not seek companionship. Our hatred and aversion to something, push us to find its opposite. Because we hate injustice, we move to establish justice. We eat because we hate hunger, collect money because we hate poverty, and try to live healthy because we hate sickness and death. If we love something, there is no escaping the fact that we must hate its opposite.
Humans can only be loved partially and obeyed partially. They are loved because they lead to something else. And Allah is the end of all roads, the end of all loves, and the end of all pursuits. He is our destination. We just do not realize it. If you have Him, you will have everything. If you lose Him, you remain without a destination, with incomplete love. Only the love of Allah makes us whole.
Love and hate even coexist simultaneously in much of what we like. We usually do not purely love or hate something but have mixed emotions about it. We may love summer more than winter, but we do not love everything about summer nor hate everything about winter. We love sweets but hate the weight gain. We love our spouses and children, but not every small detail about them. There are things to like and dislike about everything in this world. Sometimes love dominates, and sometimes hate does. The percentage of each determines how much we love or hate something. This realization grounds our experiences in reality. Love is not a pure emotion that is untinged with dislikes and discomfort. Love exists as part of a complex array of human emotions, all connected and interdependent.
In order for Love to appear in all of its Goodness, we need Ethics. As you all know that, in our personal life, Honesty, Caring and Compassion, Integrity, and Personal responsibility are values that can help us behave ethically when faced with ethical dilemmas. Then, how about the Ethics of the State?
Ethical law is universal. It pertains to every conscious, voluntary act of every free intelligence throughout the universe, but every free intelligence is selfactive and therefore ethically respon. Ethical law is immutable. It changes not to suit the convenience, ignorance, or caprice of its subjects. And yet its subjects may change. Indeed they must change. ety." The law is immutable, but society, to which it pertains, being progressive, is of necessity mutable. Ethical law is inexorable. Its demands cannot be avoided nor its penalties escaped. The law is simply inexorable, independent of human thought or deed. Furthermore, ethical law applies to every possible combination of free intelligences.
Every corporation is the aggregate soul of the men composing it. Corporate acts not infrequently discount the reputed ethical valuation of the individual souls concerned therein. But such discount is always in the interest of truth. You can never make a dishonest corpotion out of honest men.
The same principle applies to society, the community, the state. There is one immutable law that governs the individual, the corporation, the body politic. If two moral agents combine to execute a purpose which neither could accomplish alone, there is manifestly no power in such combination to free either the agents or their act from the responsibility of moral agency.
And if such combination include a hundred, a thousand, or a million such agents, moral responsibility is neither shifted nor lessened thereby. Mere arithmetic cannot affect the moral quality of an act or a system of acts. If these definitive statements be correct, it is evident that there is such a thing as "ethics of the State."
The state may be briefly defined as 'organized society exercising sovereignty over its members.' Government is the agent of the state, whereby its will is announced, its sovereignty enforced.
The individual may exist on principles of simple self-interest. But the social compact, requires upon the part of all its members such constant sacrifice of individual interests to the general good that nothing short of moral principle will secure the needed sacrifice. Moreover, there is a certain ethical altruism without which the state can make no progress. The reasons are not far to seek. Intellectual progress is by the nature of the case exclusive, while the moral law is
inclusive. Only a few citizens can respond to the appeals of science, but the many may respond to those of moral law. And then this intellectual minority by some curious law of heredity tends to diminish and run."